“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Anonymous
Sometimes success comes when you shed some bad habits rather than gaining new better ones..
Remember: Everyone’s idea of success is different and very relative to where they are at that moment in their own journey. It can be a Ferrari to a European business person or a glass of clean water to an African tribesman.
So here are the habits we recommend to give up on starting from now:
1. Give Up On the Unhealthy Lifestyle
None of your material values will mean anything at all if your body fails. It amazes me how quickly we change our priorities when we feel poorly. Nothing else matters until we are well again.
In Asia we need to think of three things
A. Healthy Diet.
The temptation to eat out is prevalent and cheap in Asia, and although our Asian counterparts look healthy their food is not doing their hearts any good at all, bad cholesterol is rife in street food and MSG that is added could be our undoing.
‘Everything in moderation’ is a Buddhist tenet. Better to limit yourself to your favourite foods and treats, then you can keep enjoying over a longer life. Makes sense right?
B. Physical Activity
Don’t need to join an expensive gym, so that excuse is out the window, what is stopping you going for a calming walk every day or a push in your wheelchair outside if you are not lucky enough to be able bodied? Where there is a will to do something the way will be found. Many Asian cities have parks with have free machines to exercise upon, and are lovely places to walk at dusk.
If you have a family in Southeast Asia and you ride a motorbike, you are walking a tightrope of danger my friend, the statistics are off the charts, Thailand is one of the worst places for accidents ever, and many travel insurance just say NO to any kind of motorcycle activity period!
I will be the first to admit that the freedom of riding a scooter without a helmet along a beach road is one of life’s pleasures until you come off and end up in a hospital and you will have a coronary when you see the bill, or get stopped for a donation to the latest police benefit drive.
2. Give Up The short term mindset
I for one cannot underestimate the power in consistency, a little bit every day goes a long way to achieving a big goal.
People ask me how I have over 500,000 on our social media accounts, they are amazed when I tell them it is the result of just 15 minutes every day following the right people over 8 years.
Successful people set long-term goals, and they know these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day.
You must dream of your long term goal every day no matter how big a mountain that is , because over a lifetime you can move a mountain with just a some shovel work every day.
It’s all your journey and we are here for a good time not a long time so make sure your daily habits are palatable but effective over the long term.
3. Give Up On Playing Small
Don’t ever shrink your goals to fit in with what others believe you can do. They are not you and most definitely not on your journey. If you never try and take great opportunities, or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never unleash your true potential. Never be afraid to fall down!
“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
4. Give Up Your Excuses
Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.
I have seen people with no limbs be successful motivational speakers, dyslexic people become University professors and Scientists, people with dreadful speech impediments become great business leaders, and people who have so many doors closed in their faces and they just became more determined with every slam!
Don’t let anyone feed you excuses either. Well “Mary your figure was always holding you back from Ballet school, nothing you can do my Dear!”
“It’s not your fault you are colour blind Jack, starting your own Electricians business was always a pipe dream son”
These people are NOT acting in your best interest, and successful people call them ‘Dream stealers’ avoid or ignore (if they are family) at all costs.
5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset
“I’ve seen too many people with talent in the gutter”
People with a fixed mindset think their intelligence or talents are simply fixed traits, and that talent alone leads to success — without hard work. They’re wrong.
Talent + Hard and smart work + experience + everyday life learning = success
You could get lucky and based purely on your singing talents land a record deal in your first week as a singer, but sooner or later your inexperience will come to light and it may be your undoing to get so lucky so quickly!
6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”
Overnight success is a myth.
Look at anyone successful and behind them is a minimum of 10,000 hours of learning and failures, tears, scars and blisters
Successful people know that making small consistant improvements every day will be compounded over time, and give them desirable results.
People who are waiting for an Angel Investor and are not tightening up their bootstraps and continuing on anyway right up till investment will fail spectacularly, especially when the Investor asks;
“What improvements have you made this week?”
That is why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1% every day.
7. Give Up Your Perfectionism
Ask Microsoft when they will be perfect, and they will reply ‘Hopefully never’ because their very longevity relies on always improving, we will maybe understand this philosophy by the time we see Windows 100
Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much we try.
Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents us from taking an action and putting our creation out there in the world. But a lot of opportunities will be lost if we wait for the things to be right.
Curly hair is to so many people very beautiful, but ask any hair and skin specialists they will tell you it is in fact a biological mistake of the follicle, remember sometimes what makes us beautiful is our very imperfections.
8. Give Up Multi-tasking.
You will never do the parts of the business you hate doing well, no matter how you try, trust me.
So here’s the good news, you don’t have to, every successful person will end up carving their business out so they actually end up doing what it is they enjoy most, the heart always rules the head.
Find people who love doing what you hate doing, and create a team, success comes when everyone does each function well and enjoys it.
9. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything
In Buddhism we are told a key to happiness is to let go of the things we cannot control.
Detach yourself from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to control is your attitude towards something.
10. Give Up On Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals
Do you ever have a day when you are really tired and you have given so much but all in all your business is not moving forward?
Successful people know that in order to accomplish their dreams, they will have to say NO to certain tasks, activities, and demands from their friends, family, and colleagues.
In the short-term, you might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when your goals come to fruition, it will all be worth it.
11. Give Up The Toxic People
People we spend the most time with, add up to who we become.
There is a simple reason why your Mother didn’t want you to play with certain kids at school. She knew that guilt always came with association.
To be wealthy you need to hang out with Millionaires.
If you spend time with people who are more accomplished than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will become more successful.
Are there any toxic people in your circle you need to take a body swerver from? Nothing personal just move to another state!
12. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked
“The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.” — Oliver Emberton
No one is you, and even if they have walked your path they never did it in your shoes.
There will be a lot of people who like you, and there will be individuals who don’t. And no matter what you do, you won’t be able to make the entire planet like you.
This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to justify yourself.
The only thing you can do is to remain authentic, improve and provide value every day, and know that the growing number of “haters” means that you are doing important things.
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